luv

                                                   Not just about LOVE!

Luv messaged me - "Can you become my landmark...i don't have the time energy patience or motivation to go...." 

Who is Luv? What is landmark forum? 

Landmark forum. Have you heard about it? In short lets just say that its a forum that changed my life. Its a forum that showed me how to really fall in love. Its a forum that gave every important relationship in my life a beautiful turn over. 

I can go on and on but Puja today wants to share the story of a girl, a mum, a wife, a daughter in law and my dearest friend with you. Don't want to name her because i don't want her to kill me. I don't want to die so lets just keep her identity a secret and name her Luv. 

Luv with a U and E missing just to avoid any confusion. you will realise that i will end up using the word LOVE a lot. Named her LUV because she has so much love in her heart. So much love for me, so much love for my kids.

She is someone i know for almost 23 years now. Reserved, quiet, accommodating, emotional, sensitive are a few words one can easily use to describe her.

Has she been my best friend forever? No. Has she been a good friend? Always. 

We sail trough life spending time with couples who live close to our house, have worked together with, have kids of the same age, so we have meals together, party together, friends you have a good time with between Friday and Monday. In short weekend friends. 

Do we know all the details about their past, their personal lives, their battle with their teenagers, the tantrums of their kids, their secrets or even their relationship as a couple? Mostly no. Why?

The purpose is to have a good time away from the mundane routine of office and work and kids and in laws. Five days are spent leading our lives and two days ( very well deserved two days)  we only want to Live life. After all there is enough crazy in our own lives to be a part of other peoples crazy. 

Anyway, back to the subject. For years Luv has been one of the many weekend friends i have. Lately luv and i have become very very close to each other. Some interesting circumstances lead to this. In no time Luv has become one of those friends who shares, a friend who is patient, who listens to you without interrupting you with a set of eyes that don't judge. 

Luv HAS a doting, successful, husband! A gorgeous kid! A career! A beautiful home!

Many ingredients for a perfect life. 

 Luv also HAD her struggles! Relationship crisis! Tragedies! Loneliness! Losses

Many ingredients for sadness in a life! (in the past)

Luv is strong....Luv is Brave....Luv is oh so Loving

But 

Luv is Sad too....Luv is sensitive too....Luv is oh so messed up too!

Luv is someone whose insides are screaming to tell me to help her with words that say the opposite.

Luv is like a warrior. A warrior who fights whenever her past comes face to face with her present.

Is being called a Warrior a compliment? Surely. But isn't being a warrior every time we face sadness, confusion, indecissiveness, fear.....taxing? Wearing that heavy armour, loading all that ammunition..... 

Oh this past....why does it not leave us alone? Why is it always sitting in our present? In our thoughts, in our ideas, in our decisions?? Why why just why do we always operate from our past?

I told Luv to imagine a space where every day is a new day. A day when past is only in the past with its miss happenings, its tragedies, its losses. How about being in a space where one is able to snap out of their sadness with just tweaking ones thoughts.  

There are various methods to do that. Therapy, Counselling, Past life regression, following a Guru, belief in the power of Almighty, prayer. The list of options is long.

I am in no authority to preach any of these methods or to undermine their effect. To each his own!

This is where Landmark Forum comes into play in my life. Yes i am not telling you how because then i will have to write a novel but i will surely tell you that once you've experienced the joy of living in the landmark space, you just don't want to live there alone but you want everyone you love, to live there with you. In this case, not because living alone is boring but because you are able to see through the messed up space your loved one is living in and it troubles you to let them stay there. You just want to pull them out asap. Landmark gives you tools that you can use to snap out of a difficult situation in a jiffy and with a smile, you definitely don't have to fight battles. In fact it marks the end of all battles!

Every time i catch her struggling, i end up having a heart to heart conversation with her and tell her why she should do the forum. Of course there is resistance. After all human beings operate from the past and she doesn't have any past personal experience of Landmark Forum. Though, I can feel it in my heart that one day she will surely do it. After all there is no way i can fail as a friend. With our conversation time to time her resistance towards the idea is surely decreasing. How can i say that? Out of the blue, she sent me that message i wrote in the beginning....  i am sharing it again , read it again and tell me you don't think she's getting there.

Luv - "Can you become my landmark....i don't have the time energy patience or motivation to go.....

Puja -  "I am always there to chat.....always there to share....always there to be brutally honest with you.....always there with a set of ears that will listen and not judge but asking me to to fish for you? sorry babe, thats not happening.....you need to learn how to fish. A bad parent or a guru or a friend is the one who does not  teach you how to fend for yourself. I have to teach you how to fish so when i am not around, you don't starve. You do your landmark and you will find me standing next to you like your shadow who will not leave you alone even in the dark. You will find me become one with you. I will help you pull it to the end. Help you gain more than i did from the programme. Trust me!"   

Be open to acknowledge that there are things that you know and there are things that you don't know and then there are things that you don't know that you don't know!

Be open to accepting something is not working. 

Be open to take help.

Be open to change.

Be open to taking an action.

Be open to learn.

Be open to evolve.

Be open to experiment.

Be open to the fact that possibilities of improvement in every sphere of life are Limitless!

Be open to believing in the Present of your dreams!

Be open to sharing with someone you trust. Don't have one? Be open for professional intervention!

                                           So i tell you my dearies,

                                           Be a princess in your heart

                                           Be a warrior in you attitude

                                           Be a ruler of your life!